It seems more and more common that people are falling into unhealthy relationships. Maybe it is from our dependency on technology or the economic downturn but how we act in relationships has completely changed. We are afraid to be alone and find someone new who can treat us better. Unhealthy relationships usually form because of some sort of dependency. Due to this dependency, you feel as if you cannot be far away from this person and not have him or her in your life. The truth of the matter is that you can get out of your relationship and that there is only something bigger and better in store for you.
Some people say that you should only get out of physically abusive relationships or that they will only end things if there is cheating involved and that everything else can be fixed. However, this is not necessarily true. There is no question that if you are in an abusive relationship that you have to take a brave step forward and get out. There are also hundreds of other reasons why you should get out of a relationship because it is doing some major damage to who you are, although it might not by physically oriented.
Many people are abused emotionally due to verbal harassment. He might say that he loves you but he will also say to you in the same sentence that you are worthless, that you can never help him and that he is tired of being with you. All of these statements foster a negative energy around your relationship and they make you begin to judge yourself. Why is he tired of me? Why I am worthless? I try to help, but am I? The words he uses against you are to belittle you so that you form a dependency on him so that when you get tired and feel like you should move on, you say to yourself that you can’t because you can’t live without him.
It is a horrible and difficult cycle to get out of especially when you do not realize it at first. Once you do realize that this is what he is doing to you, you do not want to believe it and this is the dependency that he has created. You have to rise above and know that you are better and you deserve better. You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally and not be with someone who does not even know how to love.
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